Tell us about the role that faith plays in your life — or doesn’t.
There are basic rules of etiquette in everything in life. From the basic niceties for being a human being (at least in my world), to proper etiquette while dining in public, to the appropriate protocols for a blogger, there are rules and guidelines which the average person should make themselves aware. (I suspect that my need for these rules is from often having a houseful of chums- in both high school and college- and teaching seventh grade for thirty-plus years.
The Ten Rules … On Being Human
- Be on time. I have a life of my own. I don’t want to wait on yours. “5 pm means 5 pm”… It does not mean “just before seven-ish.”
- RSVP. This means “Respond, if you please.” But it is not really a polite request. The police turn on their blue lights to pull you over. It is a request. But it is not one you are supposed to deny.
- Your Cell Phone IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. When you are with a human being… they come first. Nor do I want to know about all of your difficulties. Put the thing on vibrate and politely excise yourself… if you have to do so.
- Handshakes. A handshake is not an Olympic event. Nor are they to leave you with a squeamish feeling of needing to run a hide.
- Introduce Your Friends. If they are worth the time you are spending with them, they are worth the time of me knowing their name!
- Thank-You (s) and Thank You Notes. Do I really have to explain it?
- Grooming. I know that you think that you are the sun and the world revolves around you… But for goodness sake. We’re not monkeys. Humans groom themselves in ordinate. … Or at a salon. NOT AT THE DINING ROOM TABLE or in front of a good flick!
- “Yes (s)” and “No (s)”. Eye contact and actually answering questions, please. If you don’t want to talk about it… a polite change of the conversation… I can take a hint. Shrugging shoulders and nods are rude.
- Put Your Own Stuff Away. Do I look like your mother?… Plus, that is even rude to do to mothers after you are about six or seven.
- Common Niceties. Holding the door… Saying “Excuse Me” … If you want to park in more than one space, do it at the end on the parking lot! I like my car too!
Yeah… I could keep going!
Proper Etiquette for Dining in a Restaurant
(This is for family gatherings as well!)
- A napkin is not a bib… unless you need a bib.
- Tables-while eating- are not for elbows … or arm-wrestling. (Yes, I had a house full of boys!)
- Don’t overreact if you make a mess. It happens. (Get off your butt and assist in cleaning it up… or at least offer!)
- Don’t talk with your mouth full… ever. (The glowing wit, with which I am sure you are going to enlighten us, will wait. Comic timing does not exist at a proper meal!)
- Ask for things to be passed… politely.
- Eat … Do Not Shovel. (The house full of boys, again.)
- Try new foods offered… or politely pass … We do not have to hear all about your allergies and afflictions.
- If it is a new food, try a little bit. You can come back for seconds later!
- Blow your nose somewhere else. (This includes… no wiping of the nose on the sleeve.) (Yes, the boys.)
- Leave you napkin on your dinner plate when you are finished and ask to be excused.
And Now… To Answer to Your Question
I want to become friend with all the many people with whom I blog. There are topics that I fell are ‘dividers” and not “unifying”.
- Global Warming
- Personal Finances
- Your Romantic Pursuits (or lack thereof)
- Your Personal Maladies
I do have many firm- and not so firm- opinions on such topics. Once we become friends… we can then decide what tidbits of personal information we want to share to deepen our relationship.
If my blog is a political exercise… then I expect to find politics. The same goes for the rest of the topics.
I want to enjoy getting to know all the things we might have in common before I notice all the things that might divide.
Written for The Daily Post: Un/Faithful. December 26, 2015.Un/Faithful